Of Energy and Love

Is love energy?

All the people I’ve loved in my life? I still love them. Boys who broke my heart. Boys whose hearts I broke. Friends I haven’t seen since I was a kid. No matter how a relationship ends, the love doesn’t go away. If it did, there would be no such thing as a broken heart. It hurts because we love. Still and always. And when we see someone we haven’t in ages, that instant spark is the love surging out of the little space it waited in, just as bright as it was way back when. Maybe it’s changed a little. We all grow up and become someone else. But it’s there, for me, absolutely

Energy. Water. Constants that can only change form, not be created or destroyed. Vast, but finite. But love? Is there a finite amount to go around? Is it like energy and water, existing at  constant rate? Maybe, once we’re gone along with all those who knew us, all the love we shared gets put back into the pool to be used by others. And if we, like everything else in the universe, recycle, maybe that love just gets carted along back with us, ready to be dipped into as needed.

I thought I’d write this post as a way of working out my thoughts to my own satisfaction, but this one is eluding me a whole week later. So I’m asking you your thoughts, if you have any on the matter.


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14 responses to “Of Energy and Love

  1. Jennifer Goddard

    Assume Energy is a constant. Then contemplate the veracity of spiritual ideas, such as God is constant, He is the same yesterday, today and tomorrow. And what about Love? if God is Love, and He is the same yesterday, today and tomorrow … does it not follow that Love is the same yesterday, today and tomorrow?

    If we believe Energy is constant — cannot be created or destroyed, only transformed … is it such a leap that God is an Energy made personal, transformed in such a way that we can relate and understand?

    Interesting thoughts and contemplation you have inspired on this Monday morning, dear friend!

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  2. Mark Nelson

    Is starlight finite to us? 😃

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    • Terri-Lynne DeFino

      It seems to be infinite, but it is finite. Then again, if something is that vast, unknowable and unfathomable, is it the same as being infinite?

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  3. This week I’ve been thinking about my faith (probably that book I’m reading :-).I’ve thought about why I believe in God. I’ve concluded the sense of God–for me–comes from the love of others, the friendships I’ve formed, the beautiful trees and sky and bodies of water around me, the laughter I share with those I care about. All these things sustain me through good and bad moments. It’s a constant energy that only changes if I choose to no longer believe it’s there. It’s finite and it grows. It’s all around me, but up to me to embrace it. It’s not a magic force in a man-made religion, rather a place inside of me that opens to the arms of what surrounds me.

    Whoa, heady stuff for Monday 🙂 But a refreshing reminder of how I’ve let God’s love (and I use God in the broadest of senses) into a place in my heart.

    Thanks for making me think ❤

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    • Terri-Lynne DeFino

      Glad to be of service. 🙂
      A rose by any other name, eh? What one calls God, another calls Love, and yet another claims is all hogwash. I love all this interaction, these thoughts and feelings. I hope it’s all swashing about in my head and will one day gel into something I can grasp and hold tight.

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  4. I so honor the way you are sharing your exploration with us, Terri. Every time we ask these kinds of profound questions, we help each other to know ourselves better. I’d like to share my own exploration with you.

    Quantum physics tells us everything is energy. That all matter is energy in motion. That what we perceive as solid is just a denser vibration of energy. My own experience of this is that this vibration of energy comes to be through resonance of unconditional love. In other words, our very substance is unconditional love.

    The gift of our children is that we love them without boundaries, we see them with love and as love, and they are mirrors that actually reflect where that is coming from. In other words, the love between you and your children is your resonance, your being, and you reflect that between each other. Of course, that’s the way we all relate to each other but it is especially apparent between parents and children because of the unconditional nature of birthing a being.

    So when we are separated, as you are experiencing, that love doesn’t go away. If that is our substance and it has no boundaries, there is no beginning and end to it. But of course you are grieving the loss of your unique brilliant beautiful son. That deep feeling is so painful, and yet, the pain itself is the way we come to know what we are, we come to see that love is who we are, all of us, and our whole manifest world is a creation of our love—our children, our art, our relationships, our lives. We are all of it, each one of us is an incredibly unique expression of life itself. Much love to you. ❤

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    • Terri-Lynne DeFino

      Thank you, Lorraine. Beautiful thoughts and words. I’m truly honored by those adding thoughts here.

      Since starting this series of posts, I’ve been thinking (ya think?) about all the things it means as a whole. I come back to the fact that those things that might comfort me end up, upon further thinking, not being as comforting.

      Frex–say we do, as I wish to believe, recycle. We’re a constant source of energy that returns time and again to this world to live new lives, learn lessons that set us further along this soul journey. Wouldn’t that mean the Chris who was my son is truly and forever gone? That if he’s been here before, he belonged to someone else before me? Was someone else’s joy and sorrow? Once free from the body I made for him, he is thus no longer MY son, but the son/husband/father/whoever he was to others way before me.

      And it makes me feel as connected as it does alone.

      So many thoughts. Maybe I just need to stop thinking a while.

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  5. For me it’s simple. Love is beautifully positive energy, there is an infinite amount to go around and is always stronger than negative energy.

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  6. This is slightly different than what you’re saying but I love the idea of love living in the connections between people. Brain Pickings is one of my favorite blogs. The link to the SCIENCE OF LOVE essay is below the quote.
    “Love unfolds and reverberates between and among people — within interpersonal transactions — and thereby belong to all parties involved, and to the metaphorical connective tissue that binds them together, albeit temporarily. … More than any other positive emotion, then, love belongs not to one person, but to pairs or groups of people. It resides within connections.”


    • Terri-Lynne DeFino

      “…love is far more ubiquitous than you ever thought possible for the simple fact that love is connection. It’s that poignant stretching of your heart that you feel when you gaze into a newborn’s eyes for the first time or share a farewell hug with a dear friend. […] The new take on love that I want to share with you is this: Love blossoms virtually anytime two or more people — even strangers — connect over a shared positive emotion, be it mild or strong.”

      Thank you, Mary Beth. More to ponder. ❤


  7. Lise-Marie

    HI ! i think love goes on forever (and it does change with time). I also think there are many kinds of love and we are lucky to know them all. Or,maybe most of them. When someone is gone from out sight the love still lives on. We still love them and they still love us. Maybe the soul is made up of love and energy and it goes on shifting, changing, growing, and supporting us as we search for answers and move forward What what a babble ! Sorry for the horrible grammar.


    • Terri-Lynne DeFino

      “Maybe the soul is made up of love and energy and it goes on shifting, changing, growing, and supporting us as we search for answers and move forward.”
      No babbling. Beautiful. Thank you, Lise. ❤


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